Moving to another city: important aspects. How to survive moving to another city: tips and tricks

Cognitive instructions on how to move to another city and what to take with you to settle down in a new place and start a new life.

Sometimes there comes a moment in life (when you want to start all over again), sometimes circumstances are such that you have to think about moving to another locality or even to another country.

But how to move to another city in order to settle down in a new place, to take everything you need with you, but at the same time not to drag tons of rubbish into the future, how to part with old friends and make new ones?

Not so difficult, I tell you, especially if you are not afraid of innovations and do not succumb to difficulties.

How to move to another city: no need to be afraid!

For some reason, our compatriots are terribly afraid of change.

And if young generation(yesterday's schoolchildren, students, university graduates) are happy to change their place of residence, especially if we are talking about moving to a large city/capital from a small village, then for middle-aged people the need to move to another city turns into hard labor.

Our compatriots of mature age take root (in the literal sense of this expression) so much that it is not possible to tear them out.

At the same time, Americans (to a lesser extent, Europeans) see no reason to be tied to one place at all, most often they easily sell their property, take their children in an armful and move to another city if they are offered a promotion and a better job there. instead of the current one.

“What are the problems of moving to another city?” Any American will ask you, and he will be absolutely right.

Do not be afraid of moving, because you can get a lot of useful and pleasant opportunities from it:

Start life anew, especially if things didn’t go well for you in the old place.
Build a career.
Get back on your feet faster and find a material base (house, car, bank account).
Earn big money.
or a new love.
Open new horizons.
Become happier.

How extreme is it to move to another city?

I'll tell you a story about my former neighbor.

She rented an apartment on our site.

She was 5 years older than me, but the age difference did not interfere, and we communicated well, although it cannot be said that we were such bosom girlfriends.

Inna moved to Kiev from not big city Zhytomyr region and seemed to be happy with everything: she had a job (she is a yoga teacher), earnings were enough to rent housing, clothes, food, and even to save something.

With the money saved, Inna went on vacation to the UAE.

She did not return home from this trip.

Her mother came to a rented apartment from the Zhytomyr region to pack her daughter's things and solve problems with the landlady.

Mom also said that Inna found a job in the UAE and stayed there to live.

A month later, I found a former neighbor on social networks and she explained to me that the hotel where she was vacationing urgently needed a yoga coach, Inna offered herself, she was quickly approved, issued a visa, insurance and other documents allowing legal residence in the UAE, so there was no point in returning home even to pick up things.

Inna has been living in this country for 6 years now, she recently posted her photos with a rounded tummy and in a wedding dress.

That's how sometimes it's easy, albeit unplanned, to move to another city.

How to move to another city minimizing the number of problems?

Of course, not everyone can move to another city the way Inna did.

Firstly, it is not a fact that you will be so lucky to find a well-paid job and an employer who will take care of all the difficulties of paperwork with such ease.

Secondly, I understand that all people are different: one may, risking everything, go to another city lightly, not even really knowing what he will do there, while the other needs to plan everything in advance in order to make an informed decision.

There is nothing wrong with different approaches to moving, the main thing is to move to another city in order to minimize the number of difficulties in a new place.

You can do this:

Having studied theoretically (or better - practically: if the city you want to move to is not too far from your current place of residence, then why not visit it for a couple of days as a tourist) this settlement.
if it wasn't an offer from an employer that caused you to move.

Decide where you will live.

You should not rely on the fact that the offer to live in a fairy-tale palace will fall on your head as soon as you get off the train.

Book in advance at least temporary accommodation until you find a permanent one.

Calculate how much money you need to get through the first two months in another city.

It is foolish to decide to move with empty pockets, relying only on the future salary.

To fall in love with the city in which you are going to live in advance so that nostalgia is less tormented.

What things do you need to take to move to another city?

Of course, we will not be able to compile a complete list of things for moving to another city, because a lot depends on:

where exactly and under what conditions you are moving;
do you do it on your own or with your family;
how many and what kind of things you generally have, etc.

I'll tell you what you can't move to another city without. Without:

documents confirming your identity;
money for the first time (it is better that most of them are stored on a bank card);
seasonal clothes and shoes (no need to drag the entire wardrobe with you, if you have some of it, where to leave it);
cosmetics and a bottle of your favorite perfume (for boys - without shaving accessories);
laptop/tablet, mobile phone and chargers for them.

Everything else, as for me, can be bought on the spot or picked up later.

Before you move to another city, carefully go through your personal belongings and throw away everything that has not been used in the coming year.

And do not try to drag heaps of rubbish with you with the motivation "what if it comes in handy."

A new life should be with new things and a minimum of old ones.

You don't have to burn bridges to move to another city...

If it was not a great tragedy that prompted you to move to another city, but financial gain or a craving for something new, then you don’t need to slam the door loudly in your old house or burn all the bridges with joy.

I remember how my former friends, going to work in Italy, organized a party and, under the influence of alcohol, told why they dislike each of those who came and why they were happy to leave.

They returned three months later (something didn’t grow together there), there was nowhere to live (their one-room apartment they sold for cheap), naturally, none of the "bad" friends was in a hurry to help them.

I had to move to their parents in Cherkasy.

Don't act like my stupid ex-friends.

You do not know whether you will successfully manage to move to another city or whether you will soon have to return.

Save with friends and family a good relationship say goodbye to them in a human way.

It is better to rent out the housing you have, and not sell it for 5 kopecks.

You can either take a car with you or sell it, using the money earned for it as a reserve.

Interesting advice for young people

who are planning to move to another city,

find more in this video:

Nostalgia is normal when you move to another city

In addition to the banal difficulties that everyone who decides to move to another city faces (studying someone else's locality, adaptation to a new job, domestic issues, etc.), there is another problem: nostalgia.

If you did not run away from your hometown because everyone hated it, then it is only natural that you will miss its streets, and your parents, and friends.

You should not be ashamed of this feeling, but you don’t need to surrender too much to his power either.

It is important for you to understand: it was much better for you in your hometown than in the new one, or you just miss it, because there was a house and good memories there.

In the first case, it makes sense to think about returning or moving to some other place, in the second, you just need to be patient: soon the feeling of nostalgia will become less strong, and then it will disappear altogether.

I know for sure, how to move to another city(she herself moved to London from Kiev).

It is not easy, but most often any change is for the good.

I do not regret the perfect act and I do not advise you.

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At 22, right after graduating from high school, I decided to move to Chicago. I was eager to spread my wings and see where my career path would lead. I did not plan to return to my hometown in Indiana, although many fellow students did so. They returned to their hometowns, started families and had children. I did not see anything wrong with their choice, but this path did not suit me.

After seven years, five jobs, three apartments, and many friends, I finally made the decision to pack up and return to Indiana. My parents have been urging me to move closer to them for years, but I have dismissed the idea without even thinking. This time it was different. I made the decision myself, without consulting friends or family. I think it was one of those "clicks" where you just know. But, looking back, I understand: life gave signals that it was time to move. Now they seem obvious, but at the time I did not notice them. If you are thinking about leaving the city you live in, look out for the following signs.

The reason you moved is no longer valid

After graduating from high school, I wanted to know what it means to live in another city. It was interesting for me to get out of my usual comfort zone and build a new life on my own. Also, the move was justified in professional terms: in the new city, much more career opportunities awaited me.

At that time, all these reasons were very important to me, but after seven years of living in Chicago, they lost their relevance. All these years I have worked hard and built a career as a copywriter. During this time I learned more about life than in the previous 22 years. I never planned to stay in Chicago for the rest of my life and was free to decide when it was time to move on.

You don't miss the city when you leave

I am one of those people who are always happy to come home after a vacation or a trip. During my life in Chicago, I was not drawn to home. Perhaps I was sad to say goodbye to my parents after a weekend visit, or I just stopped feeling happy in Chicago. In any case, this is an important sign.

Do you feel like you could be happier somewhere else?

Of course, it often seems to us that "it is good where we are not." But that doesn't mean you can't be happier elsewhere. If there are logical reasons for wanting change, it's worth the risk, even if it takes some time to adapt.

In the end, the main factor that convinced me to move was family. I am an only child. The years that were spent away from their parents will never return. Recently, for me and my happiness, this has become more important than anything else.

I desperately wanted to escape

The city no longer inspires you

It took me some time to get comfortable in Chicago and get into a comfortable rhythm of life. But after I settled in and the allure of the city lights waned, I began to ask myself: what about in other places? I desperately wanted to break out of my usual routine and this densely populated city. I wanted to experience excitement and inspiration again, and for this I needed a change of scenery.

But it's not just about the novelty of another city. I wanted to look forward to what was ahead of me, to feel that I was ready to live in the chosen city for many years.

You know yourself better than before

At 22, I had no idea who I was or what I wanted out of life. Of course, self-knowledge is an endless process, but now I know myself much better. I know that living alone is a luxury that I highly value and would hardly exchange for anything. The opportunity to let the dog run freely through the fields pleases me much more than I could have imagined. Leaving behind Chicago, I make room for other wonderful things that can enrich life.

You can create a home for yourself almost anywhere. The main thing is that you feel comfortable, safe and able to imagine old age in this place. If you realize that your motives have changed, you do not feel peaceful when you return home, or you think that you will become happier in another place, it may be time to part ways in a friendly way and find out what awaits you next.

The desire to discuss the topic that I want to touch on today came somehow quite unexpectedly. Although it has quite real basis: not so long ago, the "great migration" in the form of moving from one big city to another happened in my family. This event took place for family reasons. To be more precise, first of all, it was dictated by the desire to help close and dear people (to be closer to the daughter and grandchildren).

I will say right away that it was not easy in every sense: physical (due to age), psychological, moral and material. But the motivation and purpose (for the sake of which this move was started) in this case helped to overcome difficulties and make a difficult decision: to leave nice apartment, an established life and a measured, calm life that suits us quite well.

What else helped? A certain strategy was developed: moving should not worsen the quality of our life. That was very important condition for all family members. Apparently, this somehow inexplicably magically influenced the events that took place for us in most cases in the best way.

In part, this is quite reasonable selfishness. And also, in order not to reproach oneself for altruism later (a completely viable point of view) and one day, somehow in the hearts, in a moment of resentment, a completely banal phrase would not escape from the tongue, such as: “we (parents) left everything, sacrificed our peace and even health to help you (children), but you do not appreciate it.

And it is likely that the joy of moving, which reduced the kilometers between loved ones, could very quickly turn into mutual insults, deceived expectations and disappointment.

The financially expected move without worsening living conditions was unprofitable for us, as it involved large additional expenses. I will not hide it - often there was a desire to abandon our strategy and buy something worse, settle down with less comfort.

But the firm conviction that it is possible to help your loved ones morally, physically and financially much more effectively when your life is comfortable and well-established (or at least no worse than in the old place) did not allow this.

And yet, having started with such a difficult task as moving to another city, you need to be prepared for the upcoming difficulties and understand that not only pluses await us in a new place, but, sometimes, very fat minuses.

Such psychological and moral preparation, of course, will not affect the number of problems (sometimes, until the move is started, they are not even obvious). It is unlikely that there will be less of them. But a realistic look at ongoing events, and not through rose-colored glasses, will help you survive them easier, endure and not break (based on personal experience, even in the absence of any big shocks and problems, it was sometimes difficult and it felt like you were about to break loose).

Well, perhaps enough lyrical digressions, it's time to get to the heart of the matter. Tell me about the difficulties and problems that arose when moving to another city, about your emotions and experiences, about the mistakes that were made, about new experiences, about what was acquired and what is missing in a new place, and about many other things in relation to my situations.

The experience gained during the move, and the new knowledge gained (due to the prevailing circumstances), it was decided to somehow streamline and systematize. Perhaps this will be useful to someone and will help in organizing this difficult and troublesome event, and will help to avoid mistakes and unnecessary actions. Although, of course, each of us has his own move, and each experiences it in his own way.

Why are people moving?

Relocations are very different: from a country abroad, from a large city to a province and vice versa, from one city to another.

The reasons are also very varied. Some of us simply cannot imagine our lives without changes and new vivid impressions, which makes them literally break away from their homes from time to time. Probably, this desire for renewal is an integral character trait of this category of people.

For some, the former small town has become cramped and does not allow them to realize their plans and projects. Someone is tired of constantly seeing the same views in the yard at home and at work, they want more sun, better ecology, fruits, and be closer to the sea. They leave without analysis and reflection to a loved one. Or just wanted to radically change the situation, start life from scratch. Yes, just a little…

Often, such moves are consciously (or subconsciously) based on the desire to improve your life and make it more convenient, comfortable, meaningful and richer. Although in practice this may not happen. Especially if the move occurs spontaneously, at random, without prior thorough preparation, and if there is no understanding of what a person expects and wants to get from this move.

For some, the priority is the opportunity to earn more and make a career. For others, the climate or communication with loved ones is important, the opportunity to give a good education to children, the level medical care etc.

As for our family, the question of the expediency of moving was discussed for a long time. Almost two years passed from the moment the idea of moving to its implementation came to life. The decision matured gradually, in stormy family disputes with arguments and arguments for and against. The difficulty was that it was necessary to take into account not only the general interests of the family, but also the needs and wishes of everyone living in the apartment.

As a result, all family members agreed to move and look for new housing. Along the way, at the same time, many sites and forums were read, studied, studied, prices were analyzed and compared in new buildings and on secondary market in the city to be relocated.

How to take an important step?

Suppose we have consciously approached the need for upcoming changes, have decided on goals, objectives and priorities, but we do not dare to move on to concrete practical steps.

Changing a place of residence and moving is a responsible and difficult event in a person’s life. It is difficult to leave your home, a comfortable living environment with your usual way of life, hobbies, friends and relatives, with your favorite atmosphere and comfort that have been created over the years. Not to mention the complexes and fears that can worsen in a new place.

What to do if the decision is not made in any way? Psychologists advise you to do this in this case: answer questions that will help you understand whether you really need to move or not.

How many families live in your apartment? And how comfortable is such cohabitation?

In our country, it so happened that often the lack of funds to buy separate housing for young couples forces them to live in the same territory with the older generation - the parents of the wife or husband. Certainly, in such cohabitation has its advantages. But there is also a significant disadvantage of such an extended family: in this case, the development and formation of a young family, which falls under the influence of the way of life and traditions of the older generation, is hindered. It is difficult in such conditions to develop your own rules.

In this situation, moving, which subsequently involves separation, is certainly beneficial for all generations. And this is a strong argument in favor of moving.

What are the main reasons that motivate you to move?

They can be very different (need a larger apartment in connection with the birth of a child, older children who need personal space in the form of separate children's rooms, parents moving to another city closer to their children, or vice versa). It's important to find yours.

A clear understanding of the reason for the move contributes to a faster transition to active actions to achieve the set goal, helps to understand what exactly is expected from the move, what kind of new apartment you want to see. And it helps to more easily overcome the difficulties that will certainly arise in the process of this difficult event.

How profitable is moving?

Sometimes financial gain becomes an additional motivation for moving. For example, in a new city in a new place, less spending is expected (on transport, on gasoline, and in general on accommodation).

Although sometimes people move contrary to all financial considerations and benefits, if this is due to some specific circumstances. At the same time, intangible values are also important. For example, the presence of their own space for children and parents contributes to the stabilization and improvement of relations in the family. Or the desire to be close to loved ones.

By the way, statistics (surveys were conducted by the Ebert Foundation and experts of the Federal Scientific Research Center of the Russian Academy of Sciences) show that the number of people wishing to move from one city to another has noticeably decreased over the past 10 years. The following figures are cited as evidence: in 2003, 18% of the respondents did not leave their hometown, where their parents lived. To date, this figure has increased to almost 33%.

The main reason for moving from other cities of the country, 44% of respondents called the desire to find a better paid job. The second most popular reason for moving is personal circumstances.

Psychologists explain our indecision in achieving the set goal on many life issues (including when moving), our uncertainty and doubts, which in turn give rise to fear. Fear of leaving the comfort zone, fear of breaking the habitual way of life, fear of failure, fear of being deceived. But most often we are afraid of what we do not know or do not know deeply enough.

To overcome this feeling, psychologists advise:

Build a system of thoughtful and correct steps according to the principle: constantly, gradually, step by step.
Study the issue as deeply as possible, not forgetting to consult with experts in the field of interest.
Decide if this step is really so important for you, which you cannot decide in any way. It is important to understand why you are doing this, whether you need to do it and what you are counting on.
Mentally imagine what the most terrible thing can happen to you if you still dare to take this step. And analyze whether it is really so scary and irreparable.

For example, for me it was a decision after the sale of an apartment to invest in a house under construction and the likelihood of losing everything: both housing and money. In fact, this is very serious. That is why, even at the preparation stage, it was thought out how to minimize these risks, how to insure, what to be guided by when choosing a developer company. But we will talk about this later and separately.

And on the contrary, draw in your imagination happy pictures from life after the move: new flat frequent contact with loved ones new job. Think about how your life will change after you move.
If the move that frightens you affects not only you personally, but also other family members, and in the future you see (due to circumstances) that sooner or later you will have to decide on this step in the future, why not do it now and stop the torment once and for all on this occasion.
Remember that it is you who must make the decision (do not rely on the opinions of others in this matter).
You have to believe that everything will work out for you. A positive attitude helps to overcome all obstacles and difficulties and achieve a successful completion of the project. And if you do not take this step, you will never know how your life would have turned out in a new place.

However, it is useful to listen to yourself, to your inner voice (or intuition). And if something prevents you from fully believing in the likelihood of a happy outcome, perhaps it is your intuition that is trying to tell you that this step will be wrong.

And if you initially thoroughly prepare, plan, calculate, do not dive headlong into the pool, but do everything wisely, then any, even the most difficult task, may seem like the most ordinary event. In addition, a new place means new opportunities, new acquaintances and a new life.

Today, many people are visited by thoughts: “I really want to leave here!”, “Where is the best place to move to live?”, But most often - “How to move to live in another city?”. On the last question most people are just dumbfounded. As a result, the plans are not implemented, and the person simply remains at the same place of residence, completely immersing himself in the everyday realities of a savory life. Therefore, to the question “what is needed in order to quickly and without looking back to move to another city and start a new life,” we tried to answer in this article.

Psychological indecision or self-doubt.

By nature, people are divided into those who think and speak, and those who simply do. The former often cannot decide in their actions. They constantly weigh the pros and cons. Therefore, it is difficult for them to make any decision in this regard. Yes, they can constantly fly in the clouds and tell everyone what grandiose plans they have. However, the matter does not move beyond simple conversations.

Other people, on the contrary, are used to doing more to realize their plans. They look for every opportunity and constantly have their thoughts about moving to another city in their head. At the same time, they rarely share their thoughts with other people.
In order to move to live in another city, it is necessary to prepare psychologically in advance. You need to immediately set a goal for yourself and begin to implement it. Of course, you can wait a long time for the right moment for a quick move, but it is important to understand that time can play against you. So, a number of circumstances may arise that impede these plans.

7 useful tips to prepare and move.

1) The first step for moving is to learn as much as possible about the city where you are going to live (geographical location on the map, population, transport interchange, etc.).

2) Next, you need to collect the necessary amount financial resources for expenses and in reserve. Many people who previously moved to live in a new city return after some time due to lack of money, most likely due to incorrect calculation of their needs and housing costs. Therefore, it is critically important to take as much money as possible with you so that you have enough for at least three months of residence. During this period, you can find yourself a good job in order to fully support yourself in the new city and pay for rented housing.

3) Make a list of the most necessary things so as not to carry a large load with you.

4) While still at home, search for future housing on the Internet. An ideal option if you have relatives in another city with whom you can live for the first time and look for a new home with a job.

5) Try to deal with the issue of moving with another person who also wants to move to live in another city. In this case, if you travel together, it is much easier to find housing and pay for it. Easier both financially and psychologically. After all, if you have known your friend for a long time, then you will always morally support each other in an unfamiliar city.

6) When everything is ready, do not delay the move, but immediately take it and do it! Your relatives will try to dissuade you from the trip, so be prepared for psychological pressure from loved ones. If you yourself see your success and better life elsewhere, then do not listen to anyone.

7) Already in another city, after moving, try to be vigilant to everything that happens. Visually memorize all the roads, streets, administrative real estate, transport interchange - all this will help you at the first stage of adaptation.

And good luck in your new place!

And, below, in a short ten-minute video, Alain Marlier will give you some tips based on her own experience, on the topic of moving to another city.

I want to move to another city to live!

And let's talk about how to start this difficult event.

The first thing experts recommend is to plan the move to the smallest detail, dividing all preparations into groups: selling an apartment (if necessary), looking for housing in a new place, preparing things for transportation, organizing transportation, settling in a new place, etc. . Although it happens that this event occurs quite spontaneously, caused by some unexpected circumstances. Then there is no time left for thought and reflection.

In fact, all this is quite complicated. Especially if there are budget restrictions.

By the way, about the budget. It is necessary to have a reserve of money for organizing a move to another city and arrangement. At least for the first time. This will save you from a lot of unpleasant situations and stress. It is best if there is any passive income(for example, in the form of a pension) or the possibility of earning money on the Internet. For the time of adaptation in a new place, this can be a good support.

If you imagine the moving scheme as an instruction, the plan might look like this (at least, that's how it turned out for me).

Having decided to move to a new place of residence, it is natural to assume that this will require not only material costs, but also certain information and moral resources.

In our case, the question of choosing a place was not raised. We initially went to this city, regardless of whether it is good or bad, better than our previous place of residence or worse. Nevertheless, there was already a certain idea about it, since we had already visited it more than once at different times of the year.

The weather conditions and climate were well known to us and did not radically differ from the climatic conditions of the former place of residence. Rather, on the contrary, they were a little more comfortable.

Ecology and weather are especially important to consider when moving to weather-dependent people. It will be unpleasant if the state of health and health worsen in a new place.

If this is relevant, it is necessary to study the prospects for finding a job and an opportunity to build a career. You can preview vacancy announcements in the specialty you are interested in. Better yet, prepare and post a resume.

In a word, you need to try to collect as much information as possible about the new place of residence: about the social and criminogenic situation, about the prices of food and housing, about the school, kindergartens, educational institutions, about the availability of entertainment and cultural centers, about trolleybus and bus routes, and so on. Most of this information can be obtained on the Internet or by talking to friends (relatives) who already live there. This will help you quickly and painlessly adapt to the conditions and rhythm of the new city.

Selling your apartment and preparing the necessary documents

The sales process was lengthy. Partly due to the general stagnation in the real estate market, when supply was many times greater than demand. Initially, it was decided to look for buyers on their own by placing ads with high-quality photographs on various sites (Avito, Domofond, etc.). But the apartment did not want to be sold.

Later, realtors joined in the search for buyers. As a result, I had to reduce the price twice and give way decent amount at the final sale. Which, of course, was not included in the original plans. But it was a real chance to sell the apartment after about two years from the start of the search. And I didn't want to miss it.

Search for suitable housing options

In parallel with the search for buyers for his apartment, he studied the real estate market in areas of interest in a new location. And although the purchase of housing in a new house was originally planned, all options were considered: both in new buildings and "secondary". And not only in the city, but also in the nearby suburbs.

Along the way, I had to make adjustments to the estimated cost, location and choice of area. As a result, after a buyer for our housing was found, the apartment was purchased not quite where it was originally planned, and under the contract equity participation in a house under construction, the delivery of which was scheduled in 5-6 months. This option was initially categorically rejected for many reasons. In particular, because of the risk of being left without money and housing.

Search for rented accommodation

In the first version of the plan, this item was absent, because it was planned to immediately move to a finished apartment with finishing. But since the move to their own housing was postponed for the time being, there was a need for rented housing for this time. This means that it was necessary to highlight the right amount for his payment. In addition, it was necessary to find an apartment before the final move, and preferably without furniture or with a minimum amount of it (because there were a lot of things of our own).

Everything worked out well here, a suitable option was found in the house, which was located directly opposite our house under construction. The realtor helped, who had previously been looking for housing for us to buy. I consider it expedient to address this issue to professionals. Having a fairly large base, they will help to realistically assess the market and orient on prices.

So we had a great opportunity every day to monitor how our house is being built, which is what we did for 5 months of tedious waiting. And later, when moving from rented housing to your own, it turned out to be very convenient. We moved almost all the things ourselves from the entrance to the entrance. The loaders left only the largest and heaviest things.

Packing household items and arranging transportation

You can read about how to properly organize everything, pack things, prepare them for transportation, and. The main rule is to do everything in advance and not leave it for the last day. This is a kind of guarantee that all your things will be delivered with minimal losses.

Pack everything you take with you, without haste and with high quality. Some start this process in a week or two (if there are not so many things). We barely made it to a month. True, we had a lot of furniture, books and dishes.

Now, based on the experience of the move, I think that something else should have been left in the old place. To correctly assess the situation and understand what the transportation of personal belongings will cost (at least approximately), a preliminary calculation of the cost of shipping cargo in an online calculator could probably help. But at that moment, disoriented by the answers transport companies about the estimated cost of transportation (the amount was announced, underestimated at times), it did not even occur to me to double-check all this.

A few tips:

If there are some things, clothes, household appliances, sewing machines, furniture that still look decent enough, and you doubt whether to take them with you, then it’s better to sell it all. Moreover, do not try to get rid of them at a high price. High prices will scare away buyers. As a result, they still have to leave, but already completely free.
Be especially careful when choosing books and magazines. We had to get rid of a significant part of them. But still, there were a lot of packages with books (due to the large weight, they were packed in 15-20 kg each). And this greatly increased the cost of moving. Which was later to be regretted.
The same applies to dishes and other things. Get rid of everything that you no longer use for a long time and store it out of habit or just in case. What you can, just distribute (to friends, neighbors, relatives), and what remains ownerless, feel free to send it to the trash.
There is one more rule in our family (worked out in the process of numerous moves) - everything that is packed must be clean. Therefore, before putting it in boxes and packing, we wash curtains, clothes, clean carpets, and wash dishes. Believe me, in a new place when unpacking, when life has not yet been established (the washing machine may not be connected), this will save a lot of time and effort.

When organizing the transportation of things, it is very important to find a suitable carrier company for long-distance cargo. Having determined the date of the move, you can conclude an agreement with the selected company. Unfortunately, we did not succeed at this point. The result was a negative experience and great material and moral losses. We will talk more about the mistakes that we made separately.

Extract from the apartment

It is necessary to check out from the sold apartment.

In different cities, when concluding a sale and purchase transaction, different conditions are put forward. For example, in the city where our old apartment was located, the discharge procedure was envisaged after the conclusion of the sale and purchase transaction and the execution of the contract. And it took two weeks. The checkout process took about 5 days. Do not forget to take departure sheets, which will be required when registering at a new place.

In the city where we moved, there is a different practice: everyone registered in the apartment had to check out before the transaction.

For reference: Housing Code allows the sale and purchase of apartments with persons registered in it (after the transaction, they automatically lose the right to housing). But for reinsurance and in order not to subsequently write out tenants from the purchased apartment through the court, many prefer not to buy an apartment with registered tenants.

Do not forget to deregister (where necessary), clarify the addresses and phone numbers of organizations that may be needed for inquiries (for example, pension cases), terminate contracts with companies providing Internet, telephone, cable television services and other organizations in the old place of residence . This must be done so that you are not subsequently required to pay for services that continued to be provided under existing contracts after your departure. Unfortunately, this also happens sometimes.

For the same purpose, just in case, take meter readings (you can take a picture on your phone).

Organization of departure on the day of sending things

Another important point. You need to think in advance about the time of departure, the type of transport, what to take directly with you. If you have your own transport, all this is solved much easier. Our situation was more complicated.

Things were loaded and sent in the evening and should have arrived at the new location early in the morning according to the estimated time. We had to be present when things were unloaded. And this means that we had to be there no later than 9 o'clock in the morning. Therefore, it was necessary to go literally after the car with things. And in no other way, except using the services of an intercity taxi, it was impossible to do this in our version.

An hour after loading things (time was left to clean up the apartment and hand over the keys to the new owners), we set off after our things.

What to take with you:

Medications that may be required for the first time: a set of remedies for headaches, stomach, fever, etc. In chronic diseases, accordingly, all the necessary drugs are needed.
The minimum set of shoes and clothing for the season, hygiene products, cosmetics, valuables.
A small supply of food (tea, coffee, sandwiches, cookies, etc.).
Documentation. If something requires changes, additions, clarifications (for example, you need to change your passport, get SNILS, driver's license, draw up some documents for children), it is better to do this in advance.

If you have a cat or a dog that you are taking with you, you must provide everything necessary for its transportation.

It was simply impossible to leave without a family pet. We would never leave Vasily the cat. For our four-legged family member, the move seemed like a real nightmare, probably already at the stage of loading things into the car. Strangers, frightening sounds forced him to hide in the farthest corner of the loggia. And this despite the fact that two days before that we started giving him special drops for animals to reduce stress.

In general, he endured the road remarkably and behaved very well. Travel time (approximately 8 hours) he spent in a rigid carrier on his knees quite calmly. Sometimes, however, plaintively meowed. And yet, cats should not be fed before the road, but it is better not to do this in the morning on the day of departure.

Summing up…

No matter how carefully you prepare and think through all the details, there is always a factor of surprise that can easily unsettle, disrupt all plans and lead to nervous strain. To prevent this from happening, psychologists advise, first of all, by making an effort on yourself, try to calm down as much as possible.

Relocation to another city is a very troublesome and unpleasant business in some moments (the inevitability of small losses, the need to leave the habitual habitat, adapting to new conditions, changing the rhythm of life). But if you look from the other side, these are new opportunities and prospects, new acquaintances and people. And in most cases (even if it is a forced move to another city) - this is a joyful event. The main thing is more positive and good mood.

And finally, a little advice from experts - write down your plans. This will facilitate the systematization of information, allow you to correct something, remember something. In the pre-moving bustle, a lot falls out of sight, and you can forget to do something important. Bye Bye…